American women spent $ 848,000,000 on Shapewear last year. $ 848 MILLION.
What if that same fashion accessory KEEPS you SINGLE?
Today on the CBS Morning Show there was a function in a segment of that market, the Booty Boosters. Butt is apparently the “It” factor in sex appeal this summer … no kidding! According to the report, Beyonce and Kim Kardashian are making big bucks by showing off their full, curvy butts and women across the country are buying butt pads to enhance their booties.
How is this hurting the search for your soulmate?
The problem is, at the end of the day, you’ll remove your fake butt, remove your contact lenses, remove your Spanx, sponge your eye makeup off, and in every way, you will be your true physical self with your man.
If you want to attract True Love, there is only one way and that is to fully accept yourself … just as you are, right now. I don’t know of a single woman who doesn’t dislike at least one part of her body. And you?
Are your teeth too yellow? This is my personal challenge. Even teeth whitening doesn’t help. Yes, the treatment took my color off by two to three shades, but that’s not enough to please me. It doesn’t help that NOBODY on stage and screen already has “normal” colored teeth. You do not believe me? Watch a movie from the 70s and notice the smiles.
Maybe you wear glasses and depend on your contacts for your sense of self-worth. Do you feel ugly with your glasses on?
Is your hair your challenge? Too curly, too straight, too frizzy, too little, too much? Did you know that people spend more than $ 2 trillion on hair care products and services in a year?
Maybe it’s your height that bothers you. Is it almost impossible to meet a man who is tall enough for your preferences? Don’t you like being so short?
Maybe you hate your feet, your freckles, or your facial hair.
The botox business is booming and don’t get me started on plastic surgery. Imagine how much travel you could afford with the money you are spending to create an image that you hope will attract Love and Connection.
What can a body do?!?
There is nothing wrong with getting better, grooming, and preparing to get noticed. Illusion is fun and an important part of seduction and romance. Women have been wearing cosmetics and jewelry for thousands of years to attract a man’s attention.
The woman who gets what she wants … a lasting relationship with a man who adores her is the woman who knows the biggest secret of all.
She knows that the truth of her attraction is her ability to accept herself … warts and all. She knows that her outward appearance is but a flash of all her Essence. She understands that at the end of the day, a man wants to go home to someone who fully accepts him.
It is a humbling experience to feel deeply accepted by another human being … unattached. When you know that you can offer that to a man, you are irresistible. The best way to practice this magical attraction tool is by using yourself as a test bunny. Write a list of all the things you don’t like about yourself. How many can you think of?
If you only have 1 or 2, yay! You are a role model for others and you certainly have many friends and colleagues who enrich your life right now. Even if you are still single, you are probably quite satisfied with your status right now.
If you have 4 or 5 defects that bother you, you are average. You can find support in 12-step groups or a Course in Miracles class. Make a plan to cut your list in half. Make a conscious effort to accept yourself on a deeper level than you have. Your loneliness and isolation are directly related to these aspects that are exhausting you.
If you have more than 7 personal problems that you don’t like, I suggest you find a mentor, coach, or counselor. It is exhausting to carry so much self-criticism. Believe me, no one notices if your freckles are darkening or your feet are oddly shaped. What makes a man feel good about you is his CONNECTION with you. If he feels that you “get it”, he will adore you. The few ‘flaws’ you have and are trying to cover up keep True Love out of your reach.
The next time you want to buy something new to improve your outward appearance, look in the mirror and ask yourself … “Will this help me accept myself or hide? This simple question is a powerful step in getting in tune with your true identity. It is who you REALLY are that is irresistible to that special someone!