There is a very special moment in every romantic relationship where a woman holds her breath. It’s when your man tells you that he loves you. Ideally, you will say it first and it will happen in a wonderful and memorable place. You will remember everything about the second those fateful words left his lips. The shirt he was wearing, how his hair was styled, and how his cologne smelled will become important nuances of the moment when they both knew they were going to be life companions. It all sounds so dreamy and ideal, doesn’t it? From experience, most of us know that this is usually not the case. Usually, he will blurt out the words at the most inopportune moment, such as when we are stopped at a red light or during a soccer game. Regardless of the circumstances of the delivery, the words remain meaningful and the relationship changes. Sadly, not all men get to a point where they feel comfortable sharing those words. If it’s been months or even years and he still hasn’t said that I love you, what exactly does that mean for you and your future with him?
Never forget how different you and your man are
I have often heard women say that they wish men were more like them. In a way that would be wonderful, but we essentially love men because they are men. Your man doesn’t process his feelings the same way you do. If he falls in love with you at first sight, it is very likely that he will not share that news with you until months after the relationship. The same is true of the man who slowly falls in love with his wife. He will not give you updates on how he feels. Men are just not connected that way.
Sharing deep and meaningful feelings with a man makes him feel emotionally vulnerable. It is as if you are removing your heart armor and putting yourself in the line of fire. If you don’t react favorably to his statement of worship or if you say something hurtful, it will hurt him in a way that nothing else could. A man needs to feel very secure in his relationship before he is ready to say that he loves you.
Pay close attention to your actions rather than your words
There is a lot to be gained by paying close attention to how your man acts around you. There are certain patterns of behavior that are in sync with a man who is truly and madly in love. You may believe he’s not in love unless he says the words, but don’t discount how he treats you. For a man who is struggling to open up to the point where he really feels very vulnerable, your actions can give him a great insight into what is in his heart.
A telling example is that of the man who rushes through his day so that he can spend as much time as possible with the woman he adores. Nothing matters as much to him as seeing his smiling face at the end of his workday. The same goes for the man who sends a few text messages or emails during the day. His mind is clearly on the woman he cares for. Any little gesture like this should look like what it is and that is a strong sign that your heart is focused on the woman in your life.
See their commitment to you as a sign of what is in your heart
If a man has stopped dating other women and his focus is always only on you, he is in love. Men are known for wanting to play the field. Once a man stops looking, thinking, and seeing other women, you need to take note of that. He may not have said that he loves you directly, but the fact that he has lost interest in other attractive women says a lot about how he sees you.
This is especially clear if he suggests that you not see other guys or that the two of you go out exclusively. If he mentions this, it obviously means that he wants you for himself and that generally has a lot more to do with a man’s heart than his ego.
A man in love wants to draw a closed circle around the woman who is the center of his world. She doesn’t want the threat of any other man on the horizon and she doesn’t have eyes for any other woman either. His focus is clear and he will ask you to focus on him as well.
Beware of a man who doesn’t seem to be emotionally connected to you
As much as you want to hope that he loves you, even if he hasn’t said it yet, you need to be aware of the fact that his reluctance to express it is based on the fact that he just doesn’t mean it. . If you’ve told your boyfriend that you love him and find yourself dead silent, or if he changes the subject very quickly, it’s easy to assume that he’s not in love and that he’s very uncomfortable talking about it. subject at all.
Some men will go out of their way to avoid any discussion about feelings. They will say things like “I’m not ready for a serious relationship yet” or “love is overrated.” If your guy has expressed similar feelings to you, you have every right to be put off by it. He’s telling you, in a very roundabout and ruthless way, that he just doesn’t feel the way you do.
It is up to you to determine whether or not you want to continue investing in a relationship like this. Of course, over time his position may change and he may decide that he really loves you. Maybe a little time apart, since in a short-term relationship, the “breakup” might help you see the light. However, there is a possibility that it will not.
Just remember that all men are different and while some are quick to say those three significant words, other men simply cannot understand being said “I love you” to any woman, unless they are about to propose. It is up to you to decipher your man’s actions and read between files to really see what is in his heart.