Embracing one’s sexuality is an important component of being a goddess. In my world, female magnetism is inseparable from female sexuality.
I have always been an advocate for women embracing their sexuality.
Unfortunately, I find that many women are so in conflict with sex. Many believe that they are “sacrificing the sacred part of their being” if they have sex with a man outside of commitment, as if it is so wrong that a woman enjoys sex for the sake of enjoying it.
Sex is a vehicle for bonding and connection, before and after engagement. That is my belief. My last two LTRs started sex very early. It is not true that men disappear just because you had sex with them early.
Guys disappear because they don’t feel sorry for you, with or without sex. How many guys never call again after having a first sex date? Or some dates without sex?
Exactly my point.
In my opinion, many women use sex as a tool to “catch” a man thinking that men will be more emotionally connected after sex. Don’t get me wrong, when the ingredients are there, as I’ve personally checked three times in a row now, and they can, but it’s not a guarantee. Don’t have sex just because you think he will commit to you. Have sex because you are in the moment and you want to enjoy it as much as he does.
Have sex because you want to share and create, without an agenda or expectations. Unleash your inner sex goddess.
If you think it’s good to wait, wait, but don’t keep waiting just because you have to follow the “golden rule.” There is no golden rule when it comes to sex. And the boys disappear too if you keep holding on. After all, they are human beings with their own needs like us.
It is a mistake to think that if he loves you he will wait as long as you want, simply because “the rule” says you should not have sex before engagement, or whatever. Look at it from her point of view: what’s wrong with me, she doesn’t trust me / doesn’t respect me enough to have it all?
At that point in a relationship, sex is fatally important because it is not just a physical gratification but it goes beyond that. This is where sex works to deepen your connection with a man, as men bond with us through sex, although the route is not as direct and fluid as ours.
Sure, some will keep waiting, but for the best who have options, the fact that you keep holding on can become an obstacle for them. So be careful!
Many women view sex in a one-dimensional way: a vehicle for bonding and strengthening intimacy in the context of a relationship (committed or semi-committed), which I agree is very important. However, at least to me, sex can mean different things at different times. Some days I just want fast food, other days I want gourmet. Some days, simple animal gratification is more than enough, and more than I can handle. I also don’t want to be serious about all the guys I want to have sex with, surprise … surprise.
Sex can be very satisfying this way too, at least for me. That’s the magic of living in the moment, you don’t have to link sex to any future agenda at all times.
At the same time, sex within a committed relationship is not always as good as I have experienced it. How many married couples abandon sex or find their sex life boring? Even when they are so emotionally connected and in love with each other?
Again, my point, exactly
Sex is never one-dimensional. It has and offers a full range of expression and experience. That’s the beauty of it.
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